Many couples are choosing to formalize their marriage commitment with a unique, meaningful and personal set of wedding vows. If you choose to create your own vows, first speak to your priest, minister, rabbi or other officiate. Some have strict rules on what must be said.
The best way to start out is to ask yourselves a series of questions that will allow you both to focus on some of the key elements of personalized vows.
Although answering these questions honestly and transparently with each other may be difficult or stretch you in a few ways (especially the guys!), these are key questions to answer prior to creating the foundation for a strong and enduring marriage.
1.) What is your definition of love and commitment? Of marriage and family. Of trust and “death do you part”?
2.) What are the characteristics of your partner that first created your attraction for one another?
3.) Was there a specific moment or event that occurred where you realized you were “in love” and could reasonably foresee spending your life together as husband and wife?
4.) How did you express it to your fiancé?
5.) What differences do the two of you have?
6.) In what ways do you complement each other and “complete” each other?
7.) How as your fiancé made you a better person?
8.) How has your love grown for each other?
9.) How has your commitment grown and blossomed?
10.) Do you share a special song?
11.) How has religion played a role in leading the two of you toward a path of marriage?
12.) How will you two deal with hardships and disappointments, health problems, financial issues?
What goals have you both set for your marriage?
How do you view intimacy and the possible children you create?
How do you anticipate growing and changing over the coming years… of growing old together?
Once you have listed answers to each of these questions, you will have a good foundation for your vows and in fact for your life together as husband and wife.
Woodrow Hall would love to have you publicly state your vows at our historic venue. As it approaches its one hundredth anniversary, we can only guess at how many loving couples celebrated their wedding within its walls. Please call us at 205-243-4243 or email us at vintageromance@WoodrowHall.com.
If you wish, you can also schedule a time to visit on our website scheduling tool: http://www.genbook.com/bookings/slot/reservation/30175518